35, Single, and Holding It All Together
Sometimes I sit back and think: wow, I’m really doing this. I’m 35, a homeowner, a full-time worker, a gym-goer, and… single. And let me tell you, it’s overwhelming at times.
Paying bills on my own, fixing things around the house, making sure life keeps moving forward…it’s a lot.
That’s why, when I think about dating, one thing is clear: if I was to meet someone, he would absolutely need to bring something to the table.
Because what I can’t do is entertain vibes alone. Vibes don’t pay mortgages, vibes don’t fix boilers, and vibes don’t keep WiFi running when I’m working late.
Now, I know perspectives differ. Some people still look at 35 as “young” with plenty of time to figure it out.
Others think by now I should have the whole setup: husband, 2.5 kids, a dog, a cat, and maybe even a white picket fence.
But here’s my truth, I genuinely love my own company. The peace, the freedom, the ability to come home and just be.
So the thought of sharing my space? That would require real consideration. Compromise doesn’t come easy when you’ve worked this hard to carve out your own sanctuary.
I also look around at my married or long-term partnered friends, and I don’t envy them at all. It’s not shade, it’s just the reality that every situation comes with its challenges.
They say the grass is always greener, but sometimes it’s just better watered.
At the core of this blog post is a reminder to myself: I have come a long way. I’ve built a life that I’m proud of, and whoever I eventually let into that life will need to be someone truly special; someone who adds joy, peace, and partnership, not chaos or burden.
In the meantime, I’m keeping myself grounded in the things I love: traveling, creating new experiences, being the fun auntie to my nieces, eating well, and staying fit. Yes, there’s still a shit in the dating waters (some days murky, some days clear), but I’m choosing positivity and alignment over pressure and timelines.
Because honestly? My life is already full anyone who joins in will just be the cherry on top.
I welcome your thoughts on how you are coping…you got this girl x
